FoC 085: Finding Healing Through Annulment with Patty Breen

 

Divorce and annulment affect so many Catholic women (and men), but they’re often topics that aren’t discussed much in Catholic circles. And annulment is an incredibly misunderstood Church teaching (hint: it’s not Catholic divorce!). We’ve been moved by Patty Breen’s story of her experience of seeking an annulment and we knew that she was just the right person to speak on this topic. But Patty’s expertise on annulments goes beyond personal experience. Helping couples who are seeking annulments is part of her job as a pastoral associate at her parish!

Patty works as a pastoral associate for a Catholic parish in Michigan,  is a runner, and writes for the Catholic women’s ministry Blessed Is She. In this episode we talk with her about her story of discovering her spouse’s addiction problems and the difficult work of trying to save her marriage as well as the discernment she went through to make the decision to end the marriage. We also discuss how the annulment process can be very healing for those walking through it, what to expect when seeking an annulment, how to be a good friend when someone you care about is in the annulment process, and more!

We hope that shedding some light on annulment helps women in difficult situations feel less alone. So grab a cup of coffee or tea and enjoy the conversation!

Links we discussed:

God hates divorce. But God doesn’t hate divorced people: Patty’s piece for America Magazine

Our episode discussing pornography and it’s effect on women with Matt Fradd. 

To connect with Patty:

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FoC 084: The Millennial Crisis of Faith and Longing for the Church with Tyler Blanski

As soon as we read Tyler Blanski’s new spiritual memoir An Immovable Feast: How I Gave Up Spirituality for a Life of Religious Abundance we knew we had to have him back on the show. Tyler has so much wisdom to share about the spiritual landscape millennials experience and we could talk to him for hours!

Tyler and his wife Brittany decided to convert to Catholicism just before the birth of their first child when Tyler was an Anglican seminarian. The story is so compelling! We know you will be spellbound by the beauty of their conversion story and if you grew up in Christian subculture during the 90s and early 2000s Tyler’s experience will absolutely resonate with you.

In this episode we talk about the spiritual crises of our generation, how spouses can help each other on their spiritual journeys, the phenomenon of being “spiritual but not religious,” Christian subculture for millennials, and the Blanski’s beautiful conversion story.

So grab a cup of coffee or tea and enjoy the conversation!

Tyler’s book:

(links to Amazon are affiliate links)

An Immovable Feast: How I Gave Up Spirituality for Religious Abundance

More links:

Haley’s review of An Immovable Feast

Our other episode with Tyler: Seeing the Sacred with Tyler Blanski

To connect with Tyler:

Coming Soon:

This wildly popular bundle comes around just once a year (this is its 6th year!) and it’s only available April 11th-16th.

This year, Haley’s 35 page ebook The Literary Medicine Cabinet: A Guide to Self-Care Through Good Books is one of the 129 resources included!

If you’re ready to organize and declutter your home, learn to balance your many roles, be a more intentional mom, and put delicious meals on the table faster and easier, then you will definitely want to pick up this bundle for just $29.97 (pssst… it’s worth over $3,680!).

But you have to act fast — at a price like this, they can only offer it for six days! And if you grab your bundle through Haley’s author affiliate link, you’ll get a thank you gift of one of her other ebooks of your choice:

Making Big Life Changes Together: Pursuing Your Dreams as a Couple

Feast!: Real Food, Refections, and Simple Living for the Christian Year

More Feasts!: Celebrating Saints and Seasons with Simple Real Food Recipe

Get your copy with this link when the sale goes live!

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FoC 083: The Confidence to Embrace Birth with Mary Haseltine

 

We’ve been following Mary Haseltine’s blog for years and years and we are thrilled that she agreed to join us on this episode to talk about the sacred nature of birth and how it relates to our faith. With let’s just say lots of kids between us, I’m surprised that we’ve never podcasted about birth before, but now seemed like the right time!

Mary is a doula, mother to five boys, and blogger. She’s about to release her first book with Our Sunday Visitor titled Made for This: The Catholic Mom’s Guide to Birth. She has also studied the Theology of the Body extensively and we love how she combines Catholic teaching on the body with her experience as a mom and doula to help women feel more confident about birth and view it through a sacred lens.

In this episode we talk about bringing prayer into the birthing room, how mothers can prepare for birth, choose healthcare providers, and create a birth plan. We also discuss how mothers who have had traumatic or negative birth experiences can find healing and process their trauma so they can feel confident about future births and their role as mothers. Mary’s book is a fantastic resource and offers tons of reflection, information, and a wide variety of different birth stories. We totally agree with her that there is not “right way” to give birth and love the wisdom she shares in this episode about how women can prepare for a birth that will be right for them.

So grab a cup of coffee or tea and enjoy the conversation!

Mary’s book:

Made for This: The Catholic Mom’s Guide to Birth

To connect with Mary:

Our Sponsor:

This episode is sponsored by Annunciation Designs.  Catholic families seek beauty and truth in their busy lives.  With hand-lettered designs, Annunciation Designs offers products that call to mind the sacred in the midst of the ordinary.  Find more at annunciationdesigns.com, including hand-printed Catholic baby swaddles, labor encouragement cards, tea towels with Saint quotes that are super appropriate for the kitchen, and cards for the sacraments and other life events. You can also follow @annunciationdesigns on Instagram.

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You can listen to us on iTunes, and we’d love a quick rating or review. If you have an android device we’re also on Stitcher. And as always, you can find all links, show notes, upcoming guests, and listen to all episodes at Fountains of Carrots.com.

FoC 082: What to Read and Watch Now: Our Best Recommendations

 

Today we’re talking about some of our recent good reads and fantastic shows. Books and tv: two of our favorite things! For this episode we each picked three books and three shows that we loved and want to share with you. We cover everything from domestic spy thrillers to books by popes. So grab a cup of coffee and discover some great new reading material and binge watches!

Our Book Picks:

Need to Know by Karen Cleveland

Reading People by Anne Bogel

Jesus of Nazareth: The Infancy Narratives by Pope Benedict XVI

O Pioneers! by Willa Cather

The Glass Town Game by Catherynne Valente

The Sweetness at the Bottom of the Pie by Alan Bradley

Sourdough by Robin Sloan

Other Books We Talked About:

Dark Matter by Blake Crouch

Jesus of Nazareth: Holy Week: From the Entrance Into Jerusalem to the Resurrection by Pope Benedict XVI

Shadows on the Rock by Willa Cather

Mr. Penumbra’s 24 Hour Bookstore by Robin Sloan

Our TV Show Picks:

Dickensian, Available on Amazon’s Brit Box Channel

Somebody Feed Phil, Available exclusively on Netflix

Broadchurch, Available on Netflix

This Is Us

The Marvelous Mrs. Maisel, Available on Amazon Prime

The Good Place, First Season Available on Netflix

Other Shows We Talked About:

Anthony Bordain, Parts Unknown

This episode is sponsored by 40 Days to a Feminist Faith e-retreat by our friend Claire Swinarski of The Catholic Feminist Podcast

This opportunity is fantastic because you can grow deeper in your faith from your couch with a retreat that hundreds of women have gone through and said it was “life-changing”, “amazing”, and “just what I needed.”  No travel time, no arranging childcare; it can be done from the comfort of your home.
40 Days to a Feminist Faith consists of a daily email–on alternating days, it will have a digital lesson on a feminist topic like contraception or rape culture, and on the in-between days, it will have a prayer reflection. You’ll learn answers to questions like “Why is being pro-life a feminist position?” “How can I be a feminist, whether I’m a working woman, a college student, or a stay at home mom?” “Can nuns be feminists?” “How should Catholic women be responding to the #MeToo movement?” You also get access to the Catholic Feminist slack channel and commit to praying 20 minutes daily.
It’s only $40–just a dollar a day . In today’s crazy culture, the world needs more Catholic women that understand their womanhood and feel a passion for fighting for others.
It will run from March 20-April 28, ending on St. Gianna’s feast day. So sign up at www.thecatholicfeministpodcast.com/feministfaith by MARCH 14.

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FoC 081: Why Apologetics Matter for Sharing the Faith with Strangers AND Our Kids with Brandon Vogt

 

One of our favorite people to follow on social media is Brandon Vogt. He’s an author, father of many adorable children, chicken coop builder extraordinaire, and content director for Bishop Barron’s Word on Fire Catholic ministries. And he’s passionate about reviving Catholic apologetics. So after receiving many questions in our FoC facebook group about how to deepen our understanding of the faith and know why we believe what we believe we knew Brandon was just the man to share on this important topic.

In this episode we talk about how knowledge about how to defend our faith became de-emphasized during the rise of ecumenism and how that failure to learn apologetics has contributed to the mass exodus of young people from the Church. Brandon gives advice for conversing with friends, family, and even strangers who have left the faith. We also discussed the very important task of teaching apologetics to our children and shared resource ideas for teaching ourselves apologetics and teaching our children.

Mentioned in this episode:

Brandon’s other books:

Saints and Social Justice: A Guide to Changing the World

The Church and New Media: Blogging Converts, Online Activists, and Bishops Who Tweet

To connect with Brandon:

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FoC 080: Life and Healing After Abortion with Beatrice Fedor

With March for Life happening just a couple of weeks ago, there’s been lots of excitement about the pro-life movement and many discussions about abortion in Christian circles.  One of these important discussions is the trauma women experience when they’ve been through an abortion. And yet many women who regret their abortions and need healing for what they’ve been through feel like they can’t talk about their experience–especially in religious circles. We’ve been really inspired by the story of Beatrice Fedor who bravely shares about the trauma of her experience with abortion and how she found healing when she discovered faith and sought help to process her grief.

Beatrice is a lovely French woman, Catholic convert, and pro-life advocate living in the American south with her husband and children. She vulnerably tells her story in this episode and offers beautiful insight and hope to other post-abortive women. Beatrice has great wisdom to share about resources that can help women heal from the trauma of their abortions.

This isn’t an easy topic and we openly discuss the horror of abortion and the pain of losing children through abortion, so this might be an episode to listen to when the kids aren’t in the room. But please know we tackled it thoughtfully and that the theme of this discussion is hope, forgiveness, and healing. If you have experienced abortion or want to be equipped to help a friend heal from trauma, we hope this episode will bless you and point you to resources that can offer hope and healing.

Books We Talked About in this Episode:

Forgiven and Set Free by Linda Cochran

Resources for Post-abortive women:

Rachel’s Vineyard

Sisters of Life Retreats

Suicide Prevention Hotline

Silent No More Awareness Campaign (Beatrice’s Story)

Connect with Beatrice:

And psst! Can you help us get to know you better and understand what our listeners want from the podcast? We put together a survey and it’s super short. We so appreciate it if you could spend a couple of minutes filling it out for us! Complete the survey here.

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FoC 079: How to Fight Loneliness and Build Real Friendship with Rebecca Frech

One of the questions we get the most from listeners is “I’m really lonely and feel isolated. How do I build a community and find friends so I’m supported in my faith? ” Well, our friend a former guest on the show, Rebecca Frech is here to share all about doing the hard work of friendship. Rebecca has been researching for and writing a book on the problem of loneliness and how to build good community and she has some brilliant insights to share with us! Did you know that a human being can really only handle a certain number of relationships? Rebecca’s going to tell you what that number is and how to make the most of it.

If you’re not familiar with Rebecca, she is a fiery and fun writer and mom of eight living in Texas. Her new book Can We Be Friends? comes out May 22nd. You can also find her at The Catholic Conspiracy.

In this episode we discuss the pervasive problem of loneliness in our culture and how our connection to virtual life through social media is both a symptom and a contributor to this problem. Rebecca gives us some real talk about doing the work of finding friends (“go where the people are!”) and how to go about building up a real community. We know you’ll love this episode, so grab a cup of tea and listen in!

Books We Talked About in this Episode:

Can We Be Friends? by Rebecca Frech

(You can pre-order and it releases May 22nd!)

Connect with Rebecca:

And psst! Can you help us get to know you better and understand what our listeners want from the podcast? We put together a survey and it’s super short. We so appreciate it if you could spend a couple of minutes filling it out for us! Complete the survey here.

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You can listen to us on iTunes, and we’d love a quick rating or review. If you have an android device we’re also on Stitcher. And as always, you can find all links, show notes, upcoming guests, and listen to all episodes at Fountains of Carrots.com.

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FoC 078: Stranger Things and Parenting in the Upside Down

Do you love Stranger Things like we do? We hope so because that’s what we’re diving into with this episode! Today we’re interviewing Alexi Sargeant, theatre maker, game creator, fellow Stranger Things fan, and writer for such publications as First Things, The Weekly Standard, Commonweal, Aleteia, and more. He lives in New York City with his lovely wife (and fellow writer) Leah Libresco.

In this episode we discuss a piece by Alexi that we loved about what makes children vulnerable in the world of Stranger Things and what parents can learn from the series. How do we equip children to live in a world where danger is lurking? Is there hope for a generation of broken families? Is the Upside Down a symbol for the internet? Would we watch a Steve and Dustin spin off show? (Yes!) These and other deep questions are what we examine.

So get ready to for a conversation about TV, why Winona Ryder is GREAT, and why we should be engaged parents. Hope you enjoy it!

Links we talked about in this episode:

Alexi’s great piece for The Weekly Standard about Stranger Things

Our Sponsor:

 

This episode is sponsored by Around the World Stories. These original audio stories are designed to teach kids about different countries and cultures in an engaging way. There’s currently a set of 52 stories that focus on 13 European countries as well as a six-story set about artists. The stories are fun adventures about kids in different countries in Europe. They also provide supplemental guides that includes discussion points about the stories, activity ideas, recipes and background info. The stories are created for kids ages 5-12 and are produced by a fellow homeschooling family traveling around Europe and collecting stories (dream job, right?!)

Around the World Stories is offering a great discount code for FoC listeners who want to try out their stories for FREE! You can use CARROTSMONTH for one free month of a subscription (and you can cancel at any time). Or you can use CARROTS20 to get 20% off any of the story sets including the gift certificates for them (would make a great Christmas gift)! So head over to their site to use your discount codes!

Connect with Alexi:

 

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FoC 077: What The Little Way Means for Your Holiness with Nancy Bandzuch

Regardless of your vocation, the Little Way of St. Therese of Lisieux can help you in your spiritual life. But what exactly is this Little Way and how does it work on a practical level? This is what we wanted to discuss and we knew just the right person to invite to share her wisdom on this topic: Nancy Bandzuch! Nancy is a mom of many little ones who has shared extensively about the spirituality of St. Therese on her blog Do Small Things with Love and her podcast Just One Small Thing. She is so lovely and down to earth.

In this episode Nancy talks us through St. Therese’s Little Way and acceptance of our own smallness can open us up to the grace God wants to offer us and lead us to holiness. Nancy also explains some misconceptions about St. Therese since many of us have trouble connecting with her because we assume St. Therese didn’t struggle  like we do ( her writings show that she really did!).  We also get into what living out the Little Way looks like in our daily lives and how it can help us in our vocations. It’s an inspiring and beautiful message, so grab a cup of tea and enjoy!

Books we talked about in this episode:

(This post contains affiliate links.)

The Story of a Soul: The Autobiography of St. Therese of Lisieux

Our Sponsor:

 

This episode is sponsored by Sister Moon Graphics, a family-owned Catholic card company. The online shop provides both greeting cards and blank correspondence cards for all seasons of the liturgical year.  The designs are inspired by traditional Medieval illuminated manuscript, and seek to bring the beautiful dignity of the Christian faith to all who receive them. Cards are sold individually and as packaged Christmas cards sets. Sister Moon Graphics can be found at sistermoongraphics.com and at their new Instagram account.

Sister Moon Graphics is offering 20% of all purchases for FoC listeners from November 21st through December 25th with code “fountains.” Additionally, we are offering free shipping on all orders over $50 for the Black Friday-Cyber Monday weekend (November 24th-27th), no code necessary. So head on over and use your discount code!

Connect with Nancy:

And don’t forget that you can get Nancy’s 2018 Catholic Women’s Companion Planner at the discounted rate of $30 for FoC listeners! Just head here to see more details or make your order.

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FoC 076: How We Adult (And Advice to Our Single Selves)

 

Every few months, instead of chatting with a guest, we like to ask our lovely listeners for questions they’d like us to answer and record a Q&A episode! These are always a lot of fun and it’s fantastic to hear your questions. While we couldn’t convince our husbands to be guest hosts discussing British costume dramas as requested by several listeners (maybe someday!!), it’s a great episode that covers some thoughtful questions.

In this episode we shared about how we adult, where we fit in all those pesky grown up tasks like dealing with insurance companies or making dentist appointment. We also confess that we do NOT do anything resembling “work” after the kids go to bed.  We also gave advice we’d love to have heard when we were single ladies and some general rules of thumb for handling interactions with extended family (good boundaries). Then we touch on some other topics like how we encourage vocations to religious life for our kids and how Haley and her husband have managed to be a one-car family for the past 12 years.

We hope you enjoy this Q&A episode!

Other Q&A episodes:

What’s Working for Us Right Now (Organization and Pray in the Everyday)

How Small Can We Go? (And Other Questions Answered)

And because it’s just a few weeks away…

Advent Low Down: Our Guide to Living the Beauty of the Season

Our Sponsor:

 

This episode is sponsored by Liz Escoffery of Indy FertilityCare. Liz teaches the Creighton Model of FertilityCare to help couples both trying to get pregnant and trying to avoid pregnancy (and single women too wanting to learn more about their health!). She teaches in person in central Indiana and virtually to anywhere in the world. Her specialty is in helping women going through the difficult postpartum time/breastfeeding before cycles return.  Liz provides prayer support and accountability as well as instruction and offers free 15-minute consultations for anyone wanting to get more information about working with her. You can contact her through her website.

Check out the freebie on her website: 5 Ways to Less Stress While Postpartum Charting

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